Pastoral Care

At Mersham Primary School we are very lucky to have Miss Wheeler who focuses on the Pastoral Care of our pupils. She works closely with children and their families to provide additional support where needed. 

Miss Wheeler is also a fully trained Emotional Literacy Support Assistant. Please see below for more information.

If you feel that your child might benefit from her support please do make an appointment through the school office.

Hi all,

Miss Wheeler here. I hope you are all well and staying safe.

I have been finding some resources that can help us all get through this very difficult time. This website is a fantastic resource where many ELSAs get their resources from.

Debbie Palphreyman (the creator of the website) has done a magnificent job of providing a wealth of resources to help schools and parents support their children during this time. Below you will find a number of different areas you may be interested in and some links to resources that I recommend. All the links I recommend are free to download. 

If you would like any more information or help with any of the following areas please do get in contact.

Email –

Take Care
Stay Safe
Miss Wheeler

ELSA Coronavirus Support

The following link is to the ELSA support page where she has a section of free resources that will help families through the Corona virus:

Please feel free to browse.  I would recommend the following for talking about the Corona virus – the first is about staying at home and the second if someone you know has Covid-19

And for both adults and children- this time of uncertainty can make us feel like our emotions are all over this place.   This great resource helps you track how you are feeling and maybe see a pattern.

There are some great rainbow colouring sheets on here and some great mindfulness colouring acitivies.  

And finally

Some suggestions to help your health and and wellbeing during this time. 



For some of us, this time at home or working if you are a key worker, is an anxious time. We all have different home/work challenges and we all have our own personal anxiety.  It is important to recognise these and talk about them.

It is also good to have some strategies on hand to help us calm down when we are feeling particularly anxious.  For me it is listening to music, colouring, or reading a book. 🙂

The following activities  are some of my favourites to use with children – the calming down strategies can of course be used by adults and children alike.

The following link is for a ‘Wellbeing Workout’ – I promise it isn’t as arduous as it sounds.





Bereavement and Loss

For many of us bereavement will have played a large part in our lives already. For some families it is happening now due to the Covid-19 virus.  Whether it was due to this virus or not it a loss that affects us all and it is good to be able to talk about this for both adults and children.  

Some great ideas for children are memory books or boxes. You can have this memory box/book designated solely to the person/animal that have died. Some decide to use it as a memory of life – both happy and sad memories and incorporate memories of those that have died within this.

If you feel you could use some more resources on this subject. Please email me and I can email you some options that I have already purchased.  













Understanding Emotions

Understanding emotions is very important and something that most children struggle with. It is easy for children to mix up their emotions in the same way that they often mistake hunger for tiredness or being thirsty, or a stomach ache for a headache. 

Many believe that there are 6 main emotions which are: happiness, sadness, anger, fear, disgust and surprise. It is good for children to learn from an early age to name these emotions, understand when they are feeling them and how it makes their body feel.  

There are lots of resources that help us as adults to talk about emotions with children.  It is important for children to understand that whilst some emotions may feel too big and scary it is important for us to have them.  As long as we can name them, understand them and know how to deal with them, we can become masters of our emotions rather than the other way round.  

The following resources are all free on the amazing ELSA website, however please do look at the rest of Debbie’s resources for Emotions.  Many only cost a few pounds and can be very helpful. If you would like to purchase a pack but feel unsure about which one to go with please do contact me and we can find the best resources for your particular need.   My email can be found above these headed sections.


Wellbeing and Mindfulness

Mindfulness  according to the Cambridge dictionary is the practice of being aware of your body, mind and feelings in the present moment, thought to create a feeling of calm.  

A way of achieving this is going to look different for everyone. A lot of people enjoy colouring, reading, listening to music or mindfulness recordings.  

The following arejust a handful of resources that can be found.